Notice your rhetorical moves. First you assert ignorance regarding the evidence I offer for my thesis that Jesus didn’t conform to some powerful gender norms of his day. Then you reassert, without offering evidence, your understanding of the orthodox view that you have received. This is followed by a dismissive statements regarding what seems to be your lack of understanding or empathy regarding the struggles of others who are affected negatively by the assertion of rigid gender norms (well defined, as you put it) within God. Which is a power move made over/toward the people whose suffering you do not understand and show no interest in coming to understand. You offer no reasoning or evidence for this but simply assertions. This is the rhetoric of power, not wisdom.