Mary, Thanks for bringing this up. I included the experience of receiving prayer ministry in a small group setting to give people a sense of how intimate this kind of ministry can be … how affecting and powerful an experience …. I have experienced this many times myself, prayer with laying on of hands and so on. It’s the intimacy of the experience that needs to be understood because for the LGBTQ person in a charismatic style church there are many features of the chruch (including the immersive worship style on Sunday mornings) that make the participant much more open than is typical in a less intimate church environment. For straight people who are not stigmatized by the exlusionary policies, these experiences can be great. But for the gay person, the intimacy fostered makes them more vulnerable to the rejection, the shaming, etc that comes with the policies. I’m calling out this combination of closeness and intimacy and dangerous policies as harmful to LGBTQ. I’m stop it right now because it is harmful and being warm and kind while continuing the policies, can actually be more dangerous and harmful to the LGBTQ person because it fosters vulnerability to the harmful beliefs, which can be internalized and experienced as self-loathing.