Joseph Cook, I completely agree with you that the vast majority of churches that this post describes would not be inclined to change their minds on LGBTQ or their approach to being cagey about their policies. Maybe that’s worth another post — why that is. The aim of the post is to first, educate LGBTQ people who, like everyone else, can be fairly naive about how churches handle these things. Especially with the hip churches, which give off a whole different set of signals than do more traditional churches with clearly defined and publicized dogmas. Signals that suggest they are more embracing than they are. And, secondly, to educate any straight members of these churches who consider themselves “progressive” on LGBTQ. It’s easy for them to “believe what they want to believe” about their awesome churches — that they are so compassionate about so many things, so relaxed, and thoughtful and not hard-nosed, that they must be supportive of LGBTQ people. These churches are filled with people who think they support their LGBTQ friends, support marriage equality, and don’t face the inconvenient truth that they are happy to enjoy the benefits and privileges of the hip churches, even though their LGBTQ loved ones clearly can’t — are welcome on the bus, so to speak, as long as they don’t mind their great seats at the back of the bus. It’s all a well-kept secret.