“Having a cat together made us more real.” I read this and felt ashamed. The best kind of ashamed. Ashamed for a society norm (that I acquiesced to, even enforced for a time in the religious realm) that denied communal recognition to two pair-bonded people caring for each other with such tender fidelity. The offense, the harm, the stigmatization, the withdrawal of human decency that is conveyed by marriage inequality (not fully established so long as it remains under threat of reversal or erosion) goes so deep. I call on my so-called progressive evangelical pastor peeps, who claim to privately support marriage equality where it most counts (the religious realm), who are unwilling to stand with James Finn to grow some ovaries, give up the pensions and buildings and privilege and prestige, and just no, I won’t enforce this cruelty any longer.