Craig, You’ve put your finger on something here. Exactly my experience — what you said the way you said it. And so sad, since Jesus taught that love for one’s own group is natural, all humans have this capacity. And he added that the mark of his followers is to do with extending that love to those who are outside the in-group. It’s this juxtaposition that is especially painful for the sexual minority exposed to the “compassionate, generous, and charitable” people they connect with in Evangelical churches, only to feel the exclusion all the more when they come out. The witholding of in-group love.