Aspen Rain, You describe what is such a painfully common experience so well. Mega-mucho-blessings on your relationship and peace for your girlfriend as she comes to realize the church is wrong and she is innocent of the things this stigmatizing teaching asserts. The distinctive name of the Spirit given by Jesus is Paraclete — it means “defender of the accused.” May the Spirit Jesus named Paraclete hover over your girlfriend and give her strength.